I recently wrote about Mother’s Day and how with each new generation, the roll of the family matriarch has been changing. It goes to figure that the same has happened with dads. Though I’m sure there are still some who work 9 to 5 and expect to come home to find dinner on the table. There are also many who stay at home and make sure that dinner gets on the table. And even more so that split the household responsibilities with their significant others.
A father staying at home and helping the raise the children is certainly a lot more commonplace these days. And not a big deal like it was say in the 1980s. Remember the Michael Keaton movie, Mr. Mom. Back then, being a stay at home dad was very unusual. Now we have commercials and TV show celebrating it.
As with moms, the relationship between fathers and children has also changed. Old school dads were a little colder, not mean (well, at least in most cases), but just not nurturing. Now dads are more friends to their children. Many still find themselves in the role of disciplinarian, but more with time outs than hitting you with their belts (yes kids, parents used to hit us, and we turned out OK… somewhat).
Though not a father myself, I am enjoying watching many of my friends take on the roll. Especially those who are more on the geeky side. Watching them pass down their comic books and love of Star Wars and Doctor Who to their kiddies is just wonderful.
So just how should we celebrate Father’s Day in this day and age? I remember having a tough time shopping for cards back in the day because most of them had golf references, and my father never played golf. I’m sure plenty of other fathers did and still do, so Father’s Day my be a day best spent on the green. Though more of my friends would prefer a Lord of the Rings Marathon. Or a quiet day to catch up on that book they’ve been wanted to read forever.
And more importantly, family time. Treat dad (or have your kids treat you) to a picnic or barbecue in the park or the backyard. Weather not good? Then a movie or sporting even on TV. And don’t forget to leave time for dad to take a nap.
In the past, the go to gift for dads were ties and dress shirts. These days, a less formal t-shirt is a perfect present for daddy. And there’s all kind of shirts for all kind of fathers. Fathers who are in charge:
Or the one who does everything:
The traditional father plays sports with his children, maybe coaches their team and takes them to games. That’s great. But with many of my father friends, they share more of their geeky side. Especially in all things Star Wars.
And other geeky stuff:
The fathers of my generation had a hard time setting the clock on the VCR. But today, dads are much more tech savvy. Most are on social media, no doubt further intimidating their daughter’s boyfriends.
Perhaps get your dad a Father’s Day t-shirt that shows of the kind of father he is. Or request such a shirt from your children.
Happy Father’s Day!